If the idea of changing your nervous system to reduce stress seems daunting, I have a simple metaphor for you and TWO very simple things you can do starting now that will make a difference.
Watch this video:
Our nervous system is like a snow globe that is constantly being shaken and never gets the chance to let the snow land. It starts to settle and then quickly things begin to swirl again. Sound familiar? For some, the settling feels dangerous, so if you have trouble letting your snow fall, that’s an important thing to work with.
Two simple ways to help
- Stop shaking your snow globe. Seems obvious. This means you reduce how much you do. You pay attention to how shaken the snow seems and stop when you notice it’s swirling.
- Allow time for the snow to settle. Yes, it’s that simple. Stop adding stimulus and give time to rest.
What does that look like in real life? Let’s say I’m working on a project at home – picking up the kids’ toys. I’m activated – the snow is really churning. (The activation might be exertion from the activity, irritation because I don’t want to be picking up the toys, or anything else).
Before I go on to something else, I stop for a minute – maybe 5. I sit on the couch (I don’t pick up my phone). I notice I feel antsy because my child is down for a nap and this is my only chance to get some things done.
Except, I’m putting my stress relief as a priority.
But my stress will go down if the house is in order.
Will it? Or will there always be a feeling like you didn’t get enough done.
You have a point…
Try it. See if you can use my example or find ways to reduce the activity when you feel too much snow flying, and to give the snow a few minutes to settle.
It will get easier with practice, and my guess is you’ll feel better and probably have more patience to spare with your family.
A worthwhile experiment!
