The emotion and body experience of anger are SEPARATE from the behaviors we often associate with it. If you equate anger with yelling, hitting, harsh words, you’re of course going to try to avoid it because you don’t want to hurt people. And if you don’t succeed in stopping unhealthy angry behaviors, you’re likely to suffer intense shame as a result. If you work on the energy of anger inside and let it do what it’s trying to do SEPARATE from the behavior, your behavior is likely to be different.